How do you feel about the prospective mediator?
Trustworthiness is demonstrated by a person’s actions, words, demeanor, and dress. First impressions are crucial. Mannerisms, vocal tone, as well as facial expression and general behavior often help determine whether or not a person is trustworthy.
“Sincerity is the way of heaven.” -Mencius
When people communicate with sincerity, they become more human, more approachable, and believable. An effective mediator will:
- Speak clearly and frankly.
- Conduct himself or herself with integrity.
- Be open and available.
- Accept his or her responsibility as a neutral facilitator.
A mediator who communicates sincerity makes it easier for both parties to trust and approach him or her. It means being emotionally and verbally honest in communications with others. This quality must be genuine because most people can detect insincerity.
If you sense that the mediator is not sincere, you will begin to distrust the entire process, which could drastically affect whether your mediation will be successful.
Previously in the Preparing for Divorce Mediation Series: The Effects of the Emotional Divorce Taking Over the Legal Divorce
Next in the Preparing for Divorce Mediation Series: How to Choose a Mediator and How a Mediator Should Act – Impartiality & Neutrality
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