Divorce Mediation is a peaceful alternative to the usually contentious litigation, but that doesn’t make it easier to decide how to split time with your kids. When deciding how to split time for your co-parenting arrangement, it can be difficult to know where to start. It’s important to find a schedule that works for both parents AND the children.
A few major factors to consider are:
- how consistent the schedule is;
- the amount of communication and hand-offs between parents necessary for success;
- whether the schedule is conducive to a routine;
- the time spent away from each parent; and
- how extracurricular activities will be affected.
One example of a 50/50 custody schedule is the Every Weekend.
Pros: Schedule Consistency, Minimal Communication, Minimal Hand-offs, Routine Conductive, Extra Curriculars
Cons: Time Away
Using the 70/30 Every Weekend schedule can be great for school aged children as there is no switch in the middle of the week to disrupt their routine or schoolwork. This can be difficult for the co-parents however, leaving one responsible for the week while the other has the weekend. There are minimal hand-offs and a great deal of schedule consistency. There would need to be communication surrounding activities that happen on the weekend but are planned for during the week, but the need for constant communication is still minimal with this schedule.
70/30 schedules work best when:
- Your child needs a consistent home base
- Parents don’t live very close to each other
- One parent has a busy work schedule or travels frequently
- Both parents want to be involved with the child, but a 50/50 or 60/40 schedule doesn’t work
- Both parents agree on a 70/30 schedule they think is best for the child
If a 70/30 schedule will work best for your child, but you want time to be split 50/50, you can use the holiday schedule or a summer break schedule to give more time to one parent.
Click here for a summary of the co-parenting schedule examples.