Divorce Mediation is a peaceful alternative to the usually contentious litigation, but that doesn’t make it easier to decide how to split time with your kids. When deciding how to split time for your co-parenting arrangement, it can be difficult to know where to start. It’s important to find a schedule that works for both parents AND the children.
A few major factors to consider are:
- how consistent the schedule is;
- the amount of communication and hand-offs between parents necessary for success;
- whether the schedule is conducive to a routine;
- the time spent away from each parent; and
- how extracurricular activities will be affected.
One example of a 50/50 custody schedule is the Modified Every Other Week.
Pros: Minimal Communication, Minimal Hand-offs, Routine Conductive, Time Away
Cons: Schedule Consistency, Extracurriculars
The Modified Every Other Week is great because it shortens the amount of time you go without seeing your children, but the mid-week swap can disrupt the children’s schedule and the hand-offs is doubled. There are still minimal hand-offs as you can make the swap surrounding school or an activity, but there is still more communication to be had when making a switch mid-week and having the children every other week otherwise. Children will have the ability to set up somewhat of a routine throughout the week, with exception for the mid-week swap.
50/50 schedules work best when:
- The parents live fairly close to each other, so exchanges are easier.
- The parents are able to communicate with each other about the child without fighting.
- The child is able to handle switching between parents’ homes.
- Both parents are committed to putting the child’s best interest first.
- The parents agree that the 50/50 schedule is the best one for their child.
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