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Preparing for Divorce Mediation: How to Choose a Mediator and How a Mediator Should Act – Respecting Others

How do you feel about the prospective mediator? Trustworthiness is demonstrated by a person’s actions, words, demeanor, and dress. First impressions are crucial. Mannerisms, vocal tone, as well as facial expression and general behavior often help determine whether or not a person is trustworthy.   Respecting Others “If you want to be respected by others,…

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Preparing for Divorce Mediation: How to Choose a Mediator and How a Mediator Should Act – Silence

How do you feel about the prospective mediator? Trustworthiness is demonstrated by a person’s actions, words, demeanor, and dress. First impressions are crucial. Mannerisms, vocal tone, as well as facial expression and general behavior often help determine whether or not a person is trustworthy.   Silence “Talk low, talk slow, and don’t say too much.”…

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Preparing for Divorce Mediation: How to Choose a Mediator and How a Mediator Should Act – Positive & Optimistic

How do you feel about the prospective mediator? Trustworthiness is demonstrated by a person’s actions, words, demeanor, and dress. First impressions are crucial. Mannerisms, vocal tone, as well as facial expression and general behavior often help determine whether or not a person is trustworthy.   Positive & Optimistic “Twixt the optimist and the pessimist, the…

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Preparing for Divorce Mediation: How to Choose a Mediator and How a Mediator Should Act – Patience & Perserverance

How do you feel about the prospective mediator? Trustworthiness is demonstrated by a person’s actions, words, demeanor, and dress. First impressions are crucial. Mannerisms, vocal tone, as well as facial expression and general behavior often help determine whether or not a person is trustworthy.   Patience & Perseverance “Patience is the best remedy for every…

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Preparing for Divorce Mediation: How to Choose a Mediator and How a Mediator Should Act – Flexibility

How do you feel about the prospective mediator? Trustworthiness is demonstrated by a person’s actions, words, demeanor, and dress. First impressions are crucial. Mannerisms, vocal tone, as well as facial expression and general behavior often help determine whether or not a person is trustworthy.   Flexibility Flexibility is the characteristic that enables a mediator to…

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Preparing for Divorce Mediation: How to Choose a Mediator and How a Mediator Should Act – Focusing

How do you feel about the prospective mediator? Trustworthiness is demonstrated by a person’s actions, words, demeanor, and dress. First impressions are crucial. Mannerisms, vocal tone, as well as facial expression and general behavior often help determine whether or not a person is trustworthy.   Focusing “If you don’t know where you are going, you…

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Preparing for Divorce Mediation: How to Choose a Mediator and How a Mediator Should Act – Impartiality & Neutrality

How do you feel about the prospective mediator? Trustworthiness is demonstrated by a person’s actions, words, demeanor, and dress. First impressions are crucial. Mannerisms, vocal tone, as well as facial expression and general behavior often help determine whether or not a person is trustworthy.   Impartiality & Neutrality It is imperative from the beginning, that…

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Preparing for Divorce Mediation: How to Choose a Mediator and How a Mediator Should Act – Sincerity

How do you feel about the prospective mediator? Trustworthiness is demonstrated by a person’s actions, words, demeanor, and dress. First impressions are crucial. Mannerisms, vocal tone, as well as facial expression and general behavior often help determine whether or not a person is trustworthy.   Sincerity “Sincerity is the way of heaven.” -Mencius   When people…

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Preparing for Divorce Mediation: The Effects of the Emotional Divorce Taking Over the Legal Divorce

The Wheels Come Off When You Let the Emotional Divorce Drive the Legal Divorce THE EMOTIONAL DIVORCE vs. THE LEGAL DIVORCE People generally do not enter into marriage as a business partnership, yet at the time of a divorce, California divorce laws treat the marriage dissolution as a business transaction.   We got into the…

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Preparing for Divorce Mediation: Defining “Mediation”

Mediation is the process in which a neutral person facilitates discussions between two opposing parties regarding issues that exist between them, with the expectation of helping the individuals reach an agreement. The mediator should also inform the participants that: Mediation is a consensual process; The mediator is an impartial facilitator without authority to impose a…

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Preparing for Divorce Mediation: What Happens in Mediation?

If you are reading this, you or someone you know is currently contemplating a divorce, and you would like to find a way to make the process easier. Well, you’ve come to the right place! Divorce mediation offers a friendly, non-adversarial alternative to traditional court proceedings. Successful mediation allows two separating or divorcing spouses to reach…

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